I don’t know about you, but my idea of the perfect vacation involves me doing as little as humanly possible. That includes anything that has to do with cleanup and maintenance of where ever I am staying. Owning your own cottage sounds quite romantic and fun, but there is also a great deal of work and responsibility that comes with this northern prize.
And yet, many people accept that and are quite happy with their cottages. Here are a few reasons why:
A Home Away from Home
While there is nothing wrong with letting other people do the work for you, some people just to have a second home away from home. That means knowing precisely the environment they are coming to and having full control over it.
That familiarity allows them to enjoy a predictable environment away from their regular one. That sense of comfort means that they can more readily relax and take in the pleasures of this alternative location.
Relaxing by the Lake
People who lived near a lake may come to take its pleasures for granted. But for those who spend their time in the rat race of the city and the suburbs, a lake is a peaceful oasis of calm in an ever-rushing world.
Water lapping gently against the shore can bring about a sense of relaxation and peace of mind. Those are two very desirable states for most people after surviving the work week.
Bonding with the Kids
Many cottage owners have families and this getaway place provides a perfect opportunity to play and bond with their children in an environment that is quiet, safe, and filled with natural beauty.
It can be a great place to learn new skills such as swimming, canoeing, and hiking. Or you can simply practice older skills and become more proficient at them.
Very few human beings can do without other people, even individuals they hardly even know. We often think things like, “Life would be so much easier if I didn’t have to deal with so-and-so; I’d be better off alone.” However, absolute loneliness is quite unhealthy and unnatural. Human beings are social creatures that do their best when they socialize and work together.
Because this is our natural state, loneliness can be difficult to deal with. If you are feeling lonely and unloved, here are some things to remember that can help:
You Will Get Through This
Remember times in the past when you have faced bad situations. You got through those, right? They might have seemed impossible at the time, but you powered through and a solution eventually presented itself. Keeping this in mind can help you to endure other similar moments of loneliness.
Put Your Feeling on Paper
Sometimes letting everything just pour out of you on to a piece of paper (or your word processing program) can make a real difference. It is like a weight falling from your shoulders. The problem might still be there, but you may be in a better state of mind to deal with it once your negative emotions have poured out.
Ignore Your Inner Critic
You know that inner voice that pops up from time to time in your head and says things like, “You’re not good enough,” “No one could ever love you,” or “You’re a phony and everyone knows it”? That’s your inner critic speaking and it is the voice of irrationality. You should never listen to your inner critic, especially when you are feeling down. However, this can be quite tempting because you are at your most vulnerable. When these thoughts arise, dismiss them as the untruths that they are.
Relationships are about trust and sharing: sharing your feelings, sharing your responsibilities, and sharing your love. Increasingly, it is also about sharing your passwords. These could be for e-mail, social media, banking, etc. Giving your loved one access to all aspects of your life seems like the ultimate gesture, but it is also one that can backfire badly and lead to terrible consequences.
Relationships usually seem rock solid at the outset; you can often imagine spending the rest of your life with this person. However, not all of them do last and some become quite acrimonious. At that point, all bets are off: lawyers are called in, reputations are questioned, and things become quite ugly.
The internet has added a whole new wrinkle to this issue. Those who have had longtime access to their partner’s online activities often run across things that sour the relationship. It could be the partner having regular contact with a former lover or using the internet to hook up with other people, sans permission. Misuse of money can be another issue that drives couples apart, particularly when one is putting finances towards something that both parties have not agreed upon.
It also never hurts to have a measure of privacy, even in relationships where trust seems absolute. Even those with very stable partnerships might make an offhand comment in an e-mail to someone else that their loved one was never meant to see. This can cause wounded feelings and, potentially, a domino effect of constant snooping and suspicion.
The ideal compromise would seem to be finding a proper middle ground. For example, sharing the banking password, but allowing each party to have sole access to their own social media and e-mail accounts. No relationship is perfect and the majority do not last forever. It’s important to keep both of those factors in mind.
Whether you write for a living or just as a hobby, you have probably dealt with the dreaded writer’s block at one time or another. It can be especially frustrating when the words don’t flow, even more so if you write for a living. There are various things you can try to get back on track; here are a few suggestions:
Get up from your computer and leave the writing behind. Do other things you enjoy, run some errands, go for a walk…do anything other than write and don’t spend any time thinking about it. It might take a bit, but your inspiration will eventually return.
Try a New Space
Is your writing being compromised by distractions? If you are unable to concentrate, it can be difficult to get a flow going. Even if there are no external issues, sometimes you can get a creative boost from simply trying out a new spot.
If you can’t concentrate on the desired subject, just start typing anything. Random thoughts, pointless rambles, anything that comes to mind…and then walk away from it. When you come back to this “mess,” chances are you will find some worthwhile content to extract and/or build upon.
Switch Up Your Writing Tool
Do you usually write on a computer? Switch to a yellow legal pad for a while. Do you usually write longhand? Switch to your computer for a bit. It seems like a very simple step, and it is, but this can actually make a difference.
Change Up Your Schedule
Many writers develop a set routine for their writing because that’s what works for them. When it stops working, you need to come up with a new one. For example: Do you usually write in the evening? Switch to first thing in the morning.